The thing with not wanting children yet.

I turned 25 last month. I am not a big birthday fan. It always seems to be rather shitty and its at a kak time of year. No babies should be born in January. I am a full 25 years old and NOTHING like 16 year old me had planned. But what do 16 year olds know? Hell what do 25 year olds know? I am still not sure.

I grew up in a vortex town. Smallish suburbia. Where I saw girls matriculate and get married and pop out kid after kid and never even live in the next town.  I cannot count on 2 hands and feet how many girls who went to school with me have husbands and children. Most of them got sucked in and now stay around the corner from the school where they used to be queen.  Maybe some didn’t mean for it to happen. But the ones who wanted this scare me.  Why did you have no ambition? Maybe I am just mean.

I am engaged and don’t get me wrong I want a wedding as much as the next girl who says “I will marry when I’m 60” But kids can wait. Why not enjoy your 20’s? Be a married couple. Go see the world. If that’s not your thing then braai en kyk die rugby of so iets. Don’t give me the “I want to be young and play with my kids” crap. I don’t buy it. My mom had me in her 40’s! She played with me.  You are not ancient in your 30’s. Unless a doctor told you to try and procreate asap. WAIT dammit.


I get your children become your life. But some of these chicks have nothing to say that does not revolve around their children. Ag nee man.  Just because you harboured a parasite you have nothing of interest to add to any conversation anymore. I swear babies make you stupid.


It saddens me that girls post the “I work, I am a stay at home mom, I cook, I clean, I do shit”

Wake up honey. What you are defending, is a privilege. Stop making it seem like you have such a tough life. I am not saying raising a child is easy, by any means but 80% of moms do not have that luxury. And you making it out to be such hard work is farting in their working faces.  (high 5 working moms who suck it up)

I am so sick of people asking “soooo when are the babies coming?” we JUST got engaged. Calm yo tits. Stop being one of those people who have nothing to ask a married couple other than when they plan on slipping up on birth control.


I do want children. One day. But what is so terribly wrong with waiting?

Now let’s have some wine and discuss the upcoming elections or Facebook buying Whatsapp or watch some cat videos.

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  • mishaconradie

    Oh how I laughed. Hahaha. Totally agree! I have all these people on Facebook that have kids and it is literally ALL they take about. They have no lives or interests of their own anymore, and it’s very sad.

    February 20, 2014 - 4:10 pm Reply
    • greenlydia

      I understand your kid is important, but they become uninteresting over night.

      February 21, 2014 - 6:51 am Reply
  • geewhiskerscharlene

    Love this post and I agree with you 100%

    February 20, 2014 - 4:19 pm Reply
    • greenlydia

      So glad I am not alone. 🙂

      February 21, 2014 - 6:52 am Reply

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