The meet-up bandwagon

Lately I have been getting involved in few different blogging avenues. From invitations to meet ups to assisting in organising said meet ups/articles around product reviews and so forth. This is exciting and I am honoured to be asked to be a part of these things but here’s the thing. Do I want to? Am I sure? Well, I am not so sure anymore.

Now before I piss several groups of people off, let me explain.

Blogging as a business is fast growing not only in SA but all over the globe. This is a good thing. But I think most bloggers are a little delusional when it comes to the odds of making a GOOD living from a blog. I am not saying it can’t be done. I am saying take a step back from your vision board and take a real good look at your content. Do you really think you will be able to make money from a post written about some new non foaming bar of soap from this chick that makes candles and soaps and bath salts in her back yard? I know I sound mean but I mean my meaness in the kindest way possible. You can read several Blog Advice posts “for beginners” and they will all tell you “If you are blogging for free goods then you are doing it for the wrong reasons”. Now I don’t know if the women who wrote that are just sour or if they have a point. Guessing a bit of both.

If all you want to do is write about products (i.e. Get them for free) then go ahead. But at least write good quality content. Stop being the illiterate girl who uses amazeballs and “and like it makes my face like glow like”. For goodness sake. Write something the producer would be proud to share.  Pride yourself in GOOD CONTENT if you aim to make this a full time gig.

I am starting to have an issue with meet-ups because I am not sure they serve a purpose. Yes granted you will make friends in the industry. That is a good thing. But what can they teach you if they have only been doing this for a month? Look I am not knocking ALL meet-ups. I am just saying hold onto your hat before you jump on that train. Gosh guys. At least try and reach 6 months of writing before you want to get into doing dates with other writers.

Some who have approached me have told me they “want to do good” (as in charity). That’s nice. But I don’t think doing good and helping yourself goes hand in hand. Maybe it does? What do I know?

I think there are many writers who saw someone tweet a goodie bag and thought “Shit, this looks easy.” Well honey, you are wrong. Blogging isn’t easy. But its fun. Ill be honest I get all giddy when a post gets over x amount of views. (x is pretty low, I am easily excitable.) It is rewarding in a sadistic way. Like that one time the cool girl at school said something nice to you.


Then on the other side of this spectrum there are AMAZING blogging communities (like #BWB) Who do nothing but uplift and support each other. A truly great group of woman whom with some I have gone from blog friends, to real friends.

I did not start blogging because I thought someone’s goodie bag could be mine. I think product reviews are boring reads. Unless its food. Food is never boring. I think meet-ups should not be a thing with new bloggers. I think you should find your niche before you mingle. THEN make friends.

I used a lot of “I’s” in this post. Simply because this is my insignificant view on this new craze.

I will probably never be invited anywhere ever again.

That is ok with me too.

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  • Cindy

    I think you have a point. I am honestly not a fan of blogs that only punt other peoples stuff, especially if it’s just a generic pasting of words from a press release (WHY do people even do this?!). For me, blogging needs to be personal. If you are going to review items it needs to be set in your real life situations, you know? Prove to me that you really used it and loved it or hated it. Tell me a story not push facts in my face.

    On the meet up side. I don’t think that there is any harm in people that have been stalking other people on the web for ages, actually getting together and moving forward from that superficial knowledge of each other. Although that could be because Nix and I are organising one in CT for August 😉

    Seriously though, maybe it would be better for it to be long term, committed bloggers/SM users to be there, but why can’t the newbies come and make friends too? Also, I’m not going to lie, a goodie bag would be beyond awesome, but that’s not what it’s all about. For me at least.

    May 14, 2014 - 10:05 am Reply
  • Lauren

    Great post and so very true. Has me rethinking quite a few things on my side.

    May 14, 2014 - 10:19 am Reply
    • greenlydia

      SO relieved I am not the only one thinking this. Thank you for not hating me 😉

      May 14, 2014 - 10:25 am Reply
      • Lauren

        hahaha! no hate here at all.

        May 14, 2014 - 10:25 am Reply
  • indieBerries

    love this post! blogging must come with personal intent and that intent comes from creating content that YOU love – not content that is driven by an ulterior motive! x

    May 14, 2014 - 10:38 am Reply
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  • mishaconradie

    Ha, your last two sentences!

    May 14, 2014 - 11:38 am Reply
  • mishaconradie

    Also, IndieBerries read your blog!

    May 14, 2014 - 11:39 am Reply
  • Leana Henke

    Great post hun!!! Ek love dit! It goes well with the one I did some time ago. I feel totally the same about these meet ups. I feel like every second person is doing one and honestly it’s getting old. I am actually a little bit of a loner myself – not because I’m stuck up or anything… I just prefer to encourage and motivate from the sidelines. Great post and… um… INDIE BERRIES WHAAAAAATTTTT?

    May 14, 2014 - 12:45 pm Reply
    • greenlydia

      Dankie liefie. I thought I was going to get stoned for this post but turns out most people feel this way. *Thank Goodness.

      May 14, 2014 - 12:53 pm Reply
      • Leana Henke

        But you did it anyway… You got lady balls yo! Good for you!

        May 14, 2014 - 12:54 pm Reply
  • Rashieda

    Ok so here’s my two cents. Firtsly amazing post. I love the honesty. I have been blogging for over a year and will be attending my first meet at the end of this month and one in June. My vision for blogging is giving back to the community and or causes that we as bloggers are passionate about and blogging about it. This creates awareness of some of the issues people face daily. By creating awareness I am hoping to connect organisations and businesses with NGO’s or establishments that may be in need of assistance. So my view is that blogging is a powerful tool that should be used to benefit mankind. As for the meets I am curious about how it works, how to network and also to meet fellow bloggers. Like minded women like you. I agree blogging is fun and hardwork but I don’t want to make money from it I want to make a difference with it.

    May 14, 2014 - 2:34 pm Reply
    • greenlydia

      Well said Rashieda, If you blog to do good hats off to you. That is pretty damn awesome.

      May 14, 2014 - 2:37 pm Reply
  • Gaelyn - A New Weigh

    To be honest, I’ve been struggling a little with being so far away from everyone and therefore obviously excluded from meet ups. I also want to be able to meet all the people I respect and admire online. I’m small fry, been blogging less than a year, am still figuring out what works for my online space, but really believe that by meeting others who have become successful, I could learn so much!
    ps – yay #bwb 💗

    May 14, 2014 - 4:25 pm Reply
  • Chereen Strydom

    I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and it seems like SO many other bloggers are feeling the same way! It’s good to know… it makes me feel a little less alone. I loved this post – thank you so much for sharing. x

    May 15, 2014 - 9:58 am Reply
    • greenlydia

      You have no idea how relieved I am that you feel this way. Thank you so much for reading and letting me know I am not the only one who thinks like this.

      May 15, 2014 - 10:41 am Reply
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    I will ALWAYS save you a seat!
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