With a wedding comes a bachelor party. This in my experience is 80% held and anticipated by the grooms’ mates rather than the groom himself.
This morning I tweeted the following:
“Women who get angry about a dude’s bachelors/strippers, pipe down and have a diet coke. He is still marrying you. All men look at boobs.”
This sparked a few responses and after reading my tweet again it does sound like it carries a little more annoyance than it actually did. Or rather, as I meant it to be. So I thought I would explain myself quickly.
I do not think it is right for men to pay to see women naked. It just does not bother me to the extent that I would make my boyfriend/fiancé/husband sleep outside.
I would rather have my man be honest with me and tell me where is going and what he will be doing than to have it be hidden from me. (I can name 10 men that have done this to their wives whom they love dearly and would never be unfaithful to, simply to avoid an argument)
My tweet was worded wrong in the sense that it sounds as if I am telling other women what to feel or think about this topic. It was not meant that way. Maybe its insecurity, I wouldn’t blame you. I am VERY insecure but just over other things. Or maybe I should say other kinds of women.
I am not afraid that my man will leave me for a smoking hot stripper. Men do not like sharing. I am scared that he will leave me for an educated, strong, intelligent woman that he is surrounded by on a daily basis in his corporate world.
Some feel the naked image of that dancer comes home with your man that evening, I am sure it does but that is to be expected. A beautiful naked woman dancing will stay in my mind too. What would concern me more is that woman he walked passed that smiled at him, and he smiled back what if she (fully clothed) is on his mind the rest of the day?
If you are against the idea of strippers because you feel it to be wrong or degrading or if you feel that men go to strip clubs to feel powerful. Then you are 100% completely entitled to feel that way and discuss it with you man beforehand. I have seen right in front of me how couples explode on this topic because the women simple say “NO”.
I am not disputing your right to say no, but maybe explain to your guy why you would rather not have him go. Explain the effect that it will have on you and your relationship and I can promise you your man will take to heart what you said.
I know of happy, healthy relationships where strippers were allowed and also happy healthy ones where they were not. It really is up to the couple. How YOU and your PARTNER feel about the subject.
*Tiny disclaimer – I am referring to visiting a strip club/hire strippers for a bachelor party. I am not discussing the old creepy dude that wears a wedding ring that eats all sorts of dinners at a strip club every night of the year. There is a difference between a man going out for one night with his mates be it his or someone else’s stag do and a man that goes to these places alone.
I’d love to know how you feel on this topic, drop a comment below.